Glossary

Plain explanations of the terms that come up in this work. Four sections, grouped by where they belong. Every entry is short on purpose, and links through to where the work itself happens.

Relationship glossary

Desire discrepancy, dead bedroom, rupture and repair, bids for connection, attachment styles, and the question of staying or leaving.

Masculinity and men’s work glossary

Men’s work, grounded masculinity, emotional availability, sexual shame, performance anxiety, and what providing can mean beyond earning.

Sexuality, consent and kink glossary

Consent, safewords, kink, BDSM, aftercare, arousal non-concordance, and the difference between fantasy and desire.

Retreats and formats glossary

Couples retreats, relationship intensives, immersion versus weekly sessions, group coaching, and private work.

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RelatingWise offers coaching and education, not therapy. Anything that needs clinical care belongs with a therapist; Patricia works as one in her own practice at patricia-heinis.de.

A note on who this is for: we write in terms of couples and partners for simplicity, but this applies just as much to every gender, orientation, and relationship form, whatever fits your individual situation.