We learned from the best. And most of all, from each other.
We are Patricia and Chris. A loving married couple and soul partners first, and the two coaches behind RelatingWise.
How two stories became one
We found each other late in life, and early enough to know how rare that is.
We both had long relationships before this one, and we’re grateful for them. They shaped who we are. And still, we know from the inside what it means when desire fades, when conversations become logistics, when a relationship ends that was supposed to last.
When we met, we knew instinctively that we had to do this differently: build a relationship on purpose instead of by default, keep having the conversations most couples avoid: about wanting, about jealousy, about what we are to each other and what we aren’t. And we keep discovering ourselves and each other.
That instinct became a practice. The practice became this work. We don’t teach from theory. We teach from lived experience, and we keep living it every day.
A large part of our training we did together. Among others, multiple trainings with the International School of Temple Arts (ISTA), Conscious BDSM with Om Rupani, couples trainings with Laurie Handlers, Tantra training with Barbara Carrellas, somatic practices with Elaine Yonge, trauma-informed work, and much more. Together we created Sacred Power, our own body of work on conscious power dynamics in intimate relationships. What each of us brings beyond that, you’ll find below.
Patricia
Patricia is the founder of RelatingWise and a sex and relationship therapist (Heilpraktikerin für Psychotherapie) with her own practice in Munich. Before dedicating herself to this field, she spent twenty years in the corporate world, a background that shapes how she works: clear, pragmatic, and impossible to shock. In her practice she works with the topics most professionals sidestep: kink, BDSM, polyamory, affairs.
Patricia is also known as the central host of the RTL+ series Stranger Sins. There she accompanies and supports couples in realising their sexual wishes. More at RTL+.
Alongside her therapy training, she is a trained Lomi Lomi practitioner and doula, and has trained in Conscious Parenting with Dr. Shefali, bringing the full range of qualifications from her therapy practice into this work. Within RelatingWise she works exclusively as a coach, so she can go even deeper with our clients.
Patricia believes honesty is the deepest form of intimacy. What most people lack is not love. It’s the courage and clarity to say what’s true, and a safe place for it.
Chris
Chris brings a wealth of lived experience and practical wisdom to his work with individuals, couples and men seeking deeper connection and more authentic ways of relating. After a successful international career spanning 35 years as a creative director, entrepreneur and leader in the creative industries, his own journey led him into the worlds of conscious relationships, personal development, embodiment and human transformation.
Over the past decade, he has immersed himself in the study and practice of depth psychology, relational dynamics, intimacy, archetypal work, and transformational coaching. His approach is informed by the writings of Carl Jung and James Hillman, alongside contemporary practices in embodiment and conscious relating.
Having undertaken his own profound personal transformation, he is passionate about supporting men to become more grounded, embodied, and emotionally mature. He helps men cultivate greater self-awareness, develop healthier relationships, and step more fully into an authentic and integrated expression of masculinity.
He works with people who are seeking deeper connection, greater authenticity, and more fulfilling relationships, both with themselves and others. He has a particular interest in helping clients explore the places where intimacy, vulnerability, desire, power, and personal growth meet.
Warm, grounded, and refreshingly honest in his approach, he combines deep curiosity with practical wisdom and an ability to ask the questions that matter. He creates spaces in which people can challenge old patterns, embrace new possibilities, and cultivate relationships that are conscious, courageous, and deeply alive.
What guides us
Be curious, not judgmental. The house rule, for us and for you. Because the world that opens up when you stay curious is endless.
Agreement is the Master Principle: two people agree between them what they do and what they don’t. Everything else is built on consent.
No scripts. Your life, your rules. Monogamy, Open, Polyamorous, Kinky, BDSM, Vanilla: yours is yours to build.
You always have a choice. Everything is an invitation, never a demand. You never have to.
Where depth meets desire, connection begins.
relating: how we connect with others, and above all with ourselves, moment by moment.
wise: the knowledge and skill to actually do it.
Our name means more than the relationship between two people: it means the way you create and live your relationships, with one person, with several, and above all with yourself.
