There are things you only work out by yourself. Until now.
Pleasure, boundaries, desire, and all the conversations you’ve been having alone in your head. One-to-one coaching with Patricia and Chris. For every person, and every way of loving.
Whoever you are
Man or woman, straight or queer, cis or trans, binary or non-binary, single or partnered, monogamous or polyamorous: you don’t have to fit into a box to come to us or explain yourself.
Come as you are. Nothing you bring will surprise us into judgment.
Maybe it’s the question of who you really are when no one is watching. Maybe a desire you can barely admit to yourself. Maybe the same pattern running through your life: at work, in your family, in love. Or nothing is wrong at all: you simply know there is more in you than the life you are currently living.
Most of us learned early to perform and to manage: to give the acceptable yes, to keep the real questions inside our own heads. What lives in there doesn’t die: the wanting, the doubts, the question of who you actually are. It goes quiet when it isn’t safe. It can get loud again.
This is one-to-one work on the whole of you: your pleasure, your boundaries, your patterns, your power, and your desire. You can, but you don’t have to. Both are yours.
Where do you recognise yourself?
Pleasure and your own body. Without a checklist, without a performance. What actually feels good, how you let it in, and how to find your way back when there’s been nothing for a long time.
Desire. Losing it, finding it again, or wanting differently than the person beside you. Desire is not a duty. It is information.
Boundaries. The yes that truly means yes. The no you’ve been swallowing: to feel it, to say it, to hold it. Both take practice.
The unspoken. Kink, fantasies, curiosity: the desires you have never said to anyone. Saying them out loud is where the work starts. Living them, if you want to, is the next step.
Your patterns. The same loops, whether at work, in your family, or in love. What you learned early, from your parents’ relationship, from old wounds, and what you want to rewrite.
Gender and identity. Masculine, Feminine, both, in between, or with no label at all. How you carry your identity shapes how you love and how you are loved. If you are non-binary, trans, or questioning, this is a place to explore it, not explain it.
Strength and softness. Strong without armour. Soft without losing yourself. Most of us learned only one of the two. Here you get access to both.
Women’s work. The questions women rarely say out loud: desire that disappeared somewhere between the roles and life, anger and emotions that were never allowed to be expressed, the good girl who keeps everyone comfortable, the mother you had and the woman you want to become. Much of this work is led by Patricia.
Men’s work. The questions men rarely say out loud: power and surrender, performance and fear, the nice guy who keeps everyone happy, the father you had and the man you want to become. Much of this work is led by Chris.
Feeling again. After kids, after betrayal, after years on autopilot: wanting again, feeling again, and finding out who you really are.
Expanding. Nothing is wrong. You simply want more: more honesty, more depth, more aliveness. You do not need a crisis to start.
These are the topics we hear most often. Alongside them run the classics: self-worth that wobbles, shame that arrived long before you could refuse it, the fear of being too much or not enough. And beyond that: every topic is welcome. Bring it in. This is exactly the work we do. Every person’s version is different, and nothing you bring will surprise us into judgment.
A word on energies: the Feminine and the Masculine
We teach from the concept of two core energies running through this universe, known in Taoism as Yin and Yang, which together hold the balance. This is not about how to be a better man or a woman, nor about what is seen as typically masculine or feminine. It is about the energies themselves: how we embody them and what that does to us. As humans, we embody both: some of us live more in the Masculine, some more in the Feminine. Both are important, and both shape your life. The goal is to know them both and to work with them, not to raise one above the other or have them fight each other.
You’re welcome in either, or both, whatever your gender or identity. And you choose your coach by fit, not by gender: Patricia, Chris, or both of us.
The Feminine
- Receptivity, stillness and intuition: the qualities of Yin
- The chaos and the creative: emotion as power, not as a problem to manage
- Desire and pleasure on your own terms: reclaiming wanting after kids, betrayal, or years of just functioning
- Coming home to your own body, with no performance to give
- Sexuality beyond shame: the fantasies and the kink you were taught not to want
- Who you are beyond the roles: partner, mother, seductress
The Masculine
- Action, structure and force: the qualities of Yang
- Holding space: presence that stays steady when it gets loud
- Moving forward: direction, decisions, the drive to build
- Wanting openly, instead of performing or managing it
- Sexuality beyond pressure and porn: the kink you’ve never said out loud
- Who you are beyond the roles: partner, father, provider
How we work with individuals
Individual Sessions
One-to-one with Patricia or Chris. You choose by fit, not by gender. Online worldwide, or in person in Munich, in English or German.
Individual Lab
A small group working on their own themes, with structure, practice, and the strange relief of hearing others say the thing out loud. Contact us to be notified when the next lab starts.
Individual Intensive
Two days, all focus on you, with Patricia, Chris, or both. For when weekly sessions are too slow for where you are and you want to get to the next level faster. Contact us for more information.
Wondering who you would be working with? Meet Patricia & Chris →
The process
1
Intro call with one or both of us, 15 minutes, free. Bring your questions to the coaching. We bring the answers.
2
Together we name what sits beneath your story, and where you want to grow. Not the surface version.
3
You choose the path you want to walk with us, with a beginning and an end. Coaching is a project, not a subscription.
Questions people ask us
How long does coaching take?
That depends on what you are working on. In the intro call we agree on a scope together: a beginning, a focus, and an end. Coaching is a project, not a subscription: you always know where you are and what is still ahead.
Online or in person?
Both. Online worldwide, or in person in Munich, in English or German, whichever fits you best.
What does it cost?
You will find our current rates on the Fees page. In the intro call we recommend a format. The decision stays with you.
Is this therapy?
No. Coaching works with what you want to build; therapy treats what makes you ill. If we believe a topic belongs in therapy, we will tell you openly, and help you find the right place for it.
Will anyone know what we talk about?
No. Discretion is the foundation of this work, especially with the topics people bring to us. What is said in the room stays in the room.
Can this become couples work?
Often it does. Many people start alone and bring their partner later. The door between For Couples and For Individuals is always open, in both directions.