Repair. Grow. Decide. Or simply: more.
Whatever brings you here, it’s worth saying out loud: the same conflict on repeat, desire that has faded, or simply the wish for more. Couples coaching with Patricia and Chris, for the conversations you’ve circled for years and the questions you’ve never dared to ask.
There’s a version of you both that works perfectly: dinner with friends, a good team for the kids, easy, practised, obviously in love. And then there’s the two of you on the couch, not talking, and in the bedroom, not being close.
Most couples know some version of this. The desire that has gone quiet. The argument that keeps coming back in new clothes. The things you’ve stopped asking for in bed. Every couple has conversations it has learned to step around, some for years.
And some couples come with nothing wrong at all. You simply want to get better with each other: more honesty, more play, better sex, a bigger life together. We welcome that openness and the courage to change. It is just as much our work as any crisis.
Desire, conflict, sexuality, the way power moves between you. Whatever you bring, we are curious about you.
Where do you recognise yourselves?
The desire gap. One of you wants more. One of you wants less. Both of you have stopped talking about it, because every attempt ends the same way.
Opening up. You’re curious about non-monogamy, or you’re already in it and it’s harder than the podcasts made it sound. Rules, shadows, jealousy, time, the partner who agreed but didn’t really.
After the affair. And so it happened. How? You decided to stay. Nobody handed you a map for what comes after that decision: the trust, the images in your head, the sex.
The kink mismatch. One of you carries a taboo desire the other doesn’t share, or doesn’t know about yet. It won’t disappear because you ignore it.
Power exchange and BDSM. You are drawn to dominance or submission, to handing over control or holding it. Done consciously, this is a journey to yourselves and your innermost desires. It is a language for trust, closeness, and desire that most people were never taught.
Conscious sexuality and Tantra. It is more about how you do sex than what you do in sex. And it is more than performance or release. With presence and breath you are creating deeper intimacy and desire instead of chasing the finish line.
Stay or go. You’ve had the breakup conversation in your head a hundred times. You want clarity more than you want to be right.
Expanding. Not a crisis, no breaking point. You simply know there is more available between you: more honesty, more play, more depth. You want to build it on purpose instead of waiting for it.
Dynamics and leadership. What does the core of your relationship actually look like? When do you hold space, and when do you trust leadership? Most couples live a dynamic they never chose.
Relationship agreements. What are the walls and cornerstones you actually live by, and did you ever agree on them out loud? Boundaries, needs, what is okay and what is not. We help you name them together, so consent becomes something you build on purpose, not something you assume.
These are the topics we hear most often. Alongside them run the classics: communication that goes in circles, trust that needs rebuilding, closeness that got lost in the logistics, people reenacting their own wounds and their parents’ relationships. And beyond that: every topic is welcome. Bring it in. This is exactly the work we do. Every couple’s version is different, and nothing you bring will surprise us into judgment.
THE TWO-HANDS OVERLAP
Patricia likes to use this image to show what many couples experience in bed. Picture your two sexualities as two hands laid one over the other. They overlap in some places. In others they don’t, and never fully will. That’s not damage. That’s two individuals. All perfectly fine. The work is deciding together where you want more overlap, and how to live, as a couple, with the parts that stay yours alone.
How we work with couples
Couples Sessions
With Patricia, with Chris, or with both of us in the room or online. Two coaches, a woman and a man, means nobody’s side goes unheard. You get both perspectives and different strengths, and you watch them complement each other instead of competing.
Couples Lab
A small group programme for couples who want structure and practice, and the relief of hearing that other couples wrestle with the same questions. Contact us to be notified when the next lab starts.
Couples Intensive
Two days, one couple, both coaches, for when weekly sessions are too slow and you want to move forward faster. Contact us for more information.
Wondering who you would be working with? Meet Patricia & Chris →
The process
1
Intro call with one or both of us, 15 minutes, free, both of you if possible. Bring your questions to the coaching. We bring the answers.
2
Together we name what sits beneath your conflicts, and where you want to grow. Not the fight about the dishwasher.
3
You choose the path you want to walk with us, with a beginning and an end. Coaching is a project, not a subscription.
Questions couples ask us
How long does couples coaching take?
That depends on what you are working on. In the intro call we agree on a scope together: a beginning, a focus, and an end. Coaching is a project, not a subscription: you always know where you are and what is still ahead.
Do we both need to be on board?
Ideally, yes, but very often one partner starts alone, and that is fine. Have a look at For Individuals and bring your partner when they are ready.
Online or in person?
Both. Sessions happen online or in the room with us. In the intro call we find the setup that fits your situation.
What does it cost?
You will find our current rates on the Fees page. In the intro call we recommend a format. The decision stays with you.
Is this therapy?
No. Coaching works with what you want to build; therapy treats what makes you ill. If we believe a topic belongs in therapy, we will tell you openly, and help you find the right place for it.
Will anyone know what we talk about?
No. Discretion is the foundation of this work, especially with the topics couples bring to us. What is said in the room stays in the room.
Can we talk about anything?
Yes. Nothing is off limits. You can bring anything into the conversation, and nothing you say will surprise us into judgment.
Which language do you work in?
English with both of us, German with Patricia. In your intro call we’ll match you to the right fit. Sessions happen online worldwide, or in person in Munich.